5 Myths About Grief & Loss (Part 1)

Grief is a natural response to loss that most people experience at some point in their lives. Despite it being a common experience, there are still many misconceptions about grief that can lead to shame, loneliness, suffering, and even repressing grief. In this blog post, we will explore some of the most common myths about grief and shed light on the realities of grieving.

Myth #1: Grief follows a predictable timeline

One of the most persistent myths about grief is that it follows a predictable timeline, with distinct beginning, middle, and end stages. This simply isn’t true. Grieving is a highly individualized experience that can vary greatly from person to person. While some people may experience intense grief immediately after a loss, others may not feel the full impact until weeks, months, or even years later. Grieving is not a linear process, you may experience a range of emotions all throughout your life. There is no right or wrong way to grieve, and it is important to allow yourself the time and space you need to tend to your emotions and take care of yourself.

Myth #2: Grief is something you can "get over"

Another common misconception about grief is that it is something you can "get over" with time. While it is true that the intensity of grief may lessen over time, it is not something that can be triumphed over. Grief is a complex and ongoing process that can involve a range of emotions, including sadness, anger, guilt, and confusion. Just as you will always love your person, you will always miss your person, that doesn’t go away. Your grief may change and look different as you age and reach different milestones in your life. Grief isn’t a “getting over,” it’s a “living with.” While you will not "get over" your loss, you can learn to live with it and integrate it into your life in a way that honors your loved one and the love you carry for them and allows you to move forward.

Myth #3: Grief only occurs after the death of a loved one

While grief is commonly associated with the death of a loved one, it can also be brought on by a wide range of other losses, including the end of a relationship, the loss of a job, or a major life change such as retirement or relocation. Any loss that is significant to you can bring feelings of grief, and it is important to recognize and honor these emotions.

Myth #4: Grief is a sign of weakness

There is a persistent cultural myth that suggests that expressing emotions, including grief, is a sign of weakness. This is far from the truth. Grief is a sign of love. Many people feel pressure to hide their grief, possibly because they feel ashamed of their emotions or they don't want to burden others. Hiding your grief can bring deep suffering. Allowing yourself to feel your emotions and to share your feelings with others can help you to feel less alone and can provide you with the support you need to continue on in your life.

Myth #5: Grief is something you should deal with on your own

Many people feel that they should be able to cope with their grief on their own, and that seeking support is a sign of weakness or dependency. Just as the loss of connection is devastating, increasing connection with others can be stabilizing. Grief can be an isolating and overwhelming experience, and being supported and cared for by others is crucial as you’re learning how to carry your grief and continuing to find hope and joy in your life. Whether it is through talking with a trusted friend or family member, joining a support group, or seeking professional counseling, reaching out for help can be a powerful step towards honoring yourself and your loss.

By understanding and addressing some of the common myths about grief, we can better support ourselves and others. Remember, there is no right or wrong way to grieve, and seeking support is a sign of courage. By allowing yourself to feel your emotions and seeking support when you need it, you can begin to navigate your life in a way that honors you, your loss, and the love you carry.

If you are grieving and are looking for support, schedule a consultation with me, I would love to come alongside you right where you are.